Counselling for couples
"I had to share my vulnerability and also learn to love differently. It was an important part of my journey of becoming. Understanding how to become us."
Our first session is an opportunity for us to get to know each other and for you to get a sense of how it feels to work with me. When we first meet we will look together at what are the problems and issues for you so we can begin with an understanding of where your relationship is currently.
By the end of this session we will have a clearer understanding of what you would like to be different and if beginning therapy feels right for you both. I understand it can be an overwhelming task to find the right therapist for you. If you are unsure, I am happy to answer any questions you may have about your specific situation and how I can be of help. Please do get in touch to arrange an initial telephone conversation with me.
Relationships are an integral part of our lives and all relationships go through challenging times. Couples can become stuck in unhelpful patterns of relating such as avoidance, blaming, heated arguments or struggling with past hurts. Perhaps it’s difficult to understand how you and your partner got here and you are wondering what happened to the support and connection you used to share?
Couples counselling aims to facilitate communication and for many couples it resolves difficulties which may have seemed impossible. It can help partners understand why their relationship is in distress or why they feel distant from each other and communication has broken down. Talking openly about relationship difficulties in a supportive, safe and neutral space gives both partners the opportunity to be heard equally without judgement or taking sides.
A relationship doesn’t have to be in crisis before you participate in counselling. For some people, counselling is a resource where they can prevent relationship issues from escalating into arguments or misunderstanding and is a safe forum to discuss issues openly. Relationships have a natural ebb and flow and it can be important to understand how to manage this. Maybe there are concerns you haven’t shared, or a fight you keep having. Maybe you are unsure of how to make future decisions together. Counselling can help you both find ways to address these concerns effectively. My hope is that you will be able to understand each other on a deeper level and be able to manage challenges in your relationship more effectively, both currently and in the future.
Every couple is different. You are welcome whether you are married, living together, separated, short or long term relationships, divorced and whatever your sexual orientation or identity.
What I can help with:
Trust issues, jealousy and infidelity
Relationship difficulties and conflict
Facing separation or divorce but want to work things out
Feelings of disconnection and loss of intimacy
Issues after bringing a new baby home
Coping with trauma and grief
Wanting to manage the ending of their relationship
Making a long term commitment and want to focus on their relationship
Conflict management skills
Below are my range of easy to access therapy platforms:
In person appointments
Facetime/Zoom or private video call