Counselling for couples
Relationships are an integral part of our lives and all relationships go through challenging times. Couples can become stuck in unhelpful patterns of relating such as avoidance, blaming, heated arguments or struggling with past hurts. Perhaps it’s difficult to understand how you and your partner got here and you are wondering what happened to the support and connection you used to share? Couples counselling aims to facilitate communication and for many couples it resolves difficulties which may have seemed impossible. It can help partners understand why their relationship is in distress or why they feel distant from each other and communication has broken down. Talking openly about relationship difficulties in a supportive, safe and neutral space gives both partners the opportunity to be heard equally without judgement or taking sides.
Every couple is different. You are welcome whether you are married, living together, separated, short or long term relationships, divorced and whatever your sexual orientation or identity.
When you are ready for change in your relationship
Couples come to counselling for many reasons. You might feel worried, angry, or lonely, and you might believe if you don’t get help, the relationship might end. Some clients come to counselling during a crisis, such as an affair, or while considering a separation/divorce. A relationship doesn’t have to be in crisis before you participate in counselling. For some people, therapy is a resource where they can prevent relationship issues from escalating into arguments or misunderstanding. It is a safe forum to discuss issues openly and is one of the most compassionate things we could do for ourselves and our relationship. Couples therapy can help you both to communicate openly, build friendship and emotional connection, nurture intimacy, and learn to support each other in new ways. However, positive results often depend on a couple’s motivation and dedication to the process. My hope is that you will be able to understand each other on a deeper level and be able to manage challenges in your relationship more effectively, both currently and in the future.
As with individual therapy, your first session will provide an opportunity for you and your partner to explore your situation and think about a way forward. I will help you navigate your options together and give both parties space to express and process concerns. At the end of this first session, we will decide if therapy with me is right for you both and identify what each of you would like to be different in your relationship. To make couples therapy more approachable, I also offer counselling through video conferencing. Traffic, childcare, stress, coordinating schedules and travel time can be a burden, which can prevent many couples from being able to attend counselling. Not every couple will be right for online therapy and the first session will help you and I both determine if this is a good fit for you.
What I can help with:
Trust issues, jealousy and infidelity
Relationship difficulties and conflict
Facing separation or divorce but want to work things out
Feelings of disconnection and loss of intimacy
Issues after bringing a new baby home
Coping with trauma and grief
Wanting to manage the ending of their relationship
Making a long term commitment and want to focus on their relationship
Conflict management skills
Sessions and payment:
Sessions are 50 minutes in length.
Fees may vary depending on individual circumstances and location. Please do contact me for full information.
Payment is due prior to your session and can be made by bank transfer or credit/debit cards. In-person sessions I accept cash, cheque or online payments.
*Fees may differ depending on location (UK or international), currency and payment methods.
Appointments must be cancelled at least 48 hours in advance or the full fee will be charged. You can change or cancel your appointment by email, text or voicemail.